Being nice gets you nowhere

Being nice gets you nowhere - literally!

Everyday is a new day. There are new lessons I learn about people and their behaviour. Essentially I am convinced that these medicore people (in most cases women) cover their weakness in the garb of their aggressiveness, bossiness, nastiness, bitchiness etc etc

And everytime I narrate 0ne of these new incidents to my best friend, she is surprised at me at still getting surprised at such things. Its inherent human nature. If they are not being any of the above, then its time to be surprised and worried for them :)

But then I cant help it, by nature I am a curious being and every new act intrigues me further about us human beings. And I can never ever figure out why and how a woman can be so mean and bitchy (espcially to another of the same species at work or otherwise!).

Anyways, for starters, I decided to look up the webster dictionary to get the exact definition of "bitch" = "a malicious, spiteful or domineering woman" and this word is sometimes used as a generalised term of abuse.

Genetically, a woman is the caretaker, who nutures, keeps the family or society together and the man has always been the hunter, the provider to the family or society.

I thought its not in the DNA of a woman to be a person who rhymes with witch. Even using the actual "B" word appalls me. Its so vulgar, so incendiary. Its not a word I would use lightly on someone - even though I can easily think of a few who easily qualify - and definitely not what I would want to be called by others either.

BUT yet I must confess, I do call life a bitch! (sometimes).

I remember reading an article in Washington Post sometime back on expectation from the next US President - wanted someone (man or woman) to be a 'bitch' ; 'outspoken'; comanding; unworried about pleasing everybody and wont bow to pressure!' -

Wow!

Thank god I am certainly not running to be a president. I dont think I would like to fullfill the criteria desptie the all supposed benefits.

Whenever I watch the reality TV shows like the The Apprentice, I marvel at how being assertive and manipulative pays off. If I were to appear on the show, I would be the first person Mr Donald Trump would announce "You're fired".

Forget at work, even being nice in love does not pay off.
This being good in love not paying off fact came to surface just yesterday, when I was browsing through a bookstore and chanced upon this book called "Why Men love Bitches and Why men marry bitches"! by Sherry Arpov. Her premise is that men are not looking to marry a doormat but a strong sprited woman who can stand for herself.

In my mind, that is not the definiton of a bitch but what every woman should be.

So what even if you give the reassurance to the man that while you are his strong sprited soul mate, his duties and commitments come first AND he still in turn sheds you off at the first and foremost instance for no fault or reason!

Anyways, to me the b-word applies to the women who back-stab you at work and then throw hissy fits on how rude and arrogant you are instead. How much medicore and insecure can some of us become.

We, the women, who are programmed from young to be sugar and spice and everything nice in this big, bad, bitchy world!